This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
I don't know where to go to for support. My husband is always "sick" on his days off, so he spends the day in bed or relaxing because he is "sick". I can count on one hand the number of times be hasn't been "sick" or had a headache on his day off. He then gets mad at me if I try to hand him the child and says I'm selfish and how can I expect him to look after the child when he is feeling "sick". When I was sick he expected me to look after the baby, "since it was my job and I'm the mother". He won't go to the doctors because "it is just a regular cold or tummy ache that will go away". I'm getting frustrated and exhausted. He's also never watched the baby for one whole night to let me rest. I need sleep and rest so bad.
This was posted anonymously to Magnificent Moms 2015 (Victoria, BC)
Possible abuse. I have the most amazing husband in so many ways, and I'm so so grateful for him as a partner and for being an amazing dad. But tonight was the first time he has physically let out his anger towards me and it has completely scared me. So much that I am wide awake and still shaking at 2 am and cannot imagine how to sleep. He rarely drinks because it affects him and sometimes when he does, he is not himself and some pretty hard things have occurred. Because he is amazing to me and our little one and I can't imagine a life with out him, I want to get over it. I want to talk myself out of the things he says when angry and then tonight what happened. It was a push against a wall and grabbing me and pulling me to him in a c... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mosaic Moms 2017 (Victoria, BC)
Baby #2 is a few weeks old and a couple times does not seem like themselves. My baby will have their eyes open, their whole body will move a little faster than normal and baby feels stronger. I think it might be seizures or sleep myoclonus. I will call my family doctor in the morning, but I'm the mean time...has anyone else had this experience? (The first time it happend I froze. The second time was shorter in length and I made a good mental note what was going on. Next time I will get a video with my cell phone.)
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Lately I'm feeling a bit of a disconnect with my husband. We have a wonderful relationship, however since the birth of our baby sex has been a lot less. Now there are all the normal reason why, healing, newborn, not sleeping, breastfeeding, reduced sex drive etc. Now I feel like all of these are way less and I'm missing sex. Now both my husband and I have never pressured each other for sex. We have both been happy with the amount of sex we were having. Now it's significantly reduced and I'm missing the passion and deeper intimacy. I don't know what to do to help spark the flame. Hubby has never been into fancy bras/underwear (fine by me because it's expensive ๐Ÿ˜‚) he's not super adventurous with positions. Lately when we do have sex w... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mommble Moms Vancouver (VANCOUVER, BC)
My partners mother is blind and doesn't use a white cane or guide dog...just gets and round with the help of her husband or volunteer driver. I want him to be able to take over to his parents without me but I am nervous that she will drop him when carrying him or something. I asked my SO to just make sure that someone is supervising his mom with our baby because I don't feel fully comfortable yet. I've seen her trip on stuff all the time because in homes as she doesn't use a white cane just feels for stuff but trips and it makes me nervous thinking she could be carrying him and do that. We got in a huge fight and said it was completely unreasonable to have that stipulation but I said it was his safety I was most concerned with and just... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mosaic Moms 2017 (Victoria, BC)
My partner's job is very stressful and means that he is away a lot. He wants to make a change so that he can have a better work/life balance and be home for our children and me. He has applied for 1 job so far, and it's a great job in an area that he is passionate about and he would be excited to get, but it would mean that we'd have to move out of province, and he'd have to train for 2 years to become qualified, so it would affect our finances and I would have to live in our rental suite or with my parents for a year or so with our son who will be a year old by then, while he stays in a rental in the city he will be training in. So we'd also be apart for the majority of the year and a half it will take. We are used to being apart, but it's... Read More
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Just got a positive pregnancy test this morning! However, my due date is December 29th. I am not sure how I feel about this date as I'm worried my midwives will be booked up for the month already and do I consider them a 2017 or 2018 baby? Any other moms with late in the year babies?
This was posted anonymously to Magnificent Moms 2015 (Victoria, BC)
Can anyone share any legal separation stories that end in reconciliation? Would love to hear insight from others and how they managed to get through it! 2 young kids and step children are involved in this blended family dynamic. One partner is in counseling and making changes that were necessary while the other isn't, and is possibly starting to see other people. Is there any hope?
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
I have been sleep trying my little guy for what feels like forever (almost a month). I don't nurse him any more in the night, he goes down awake fine, has slept through the night a good handful of times but for some reason we can't shake a 3-430am wake up. I have tried cio, giving a pacifier, rocking but nothing seems to really work. Any tips, thoughts, advice?
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This is just one of those ongoing things for me. Gender disappointment. It's not that I'm disappointed with my son. I absolutely adore him. But when people around me keep giving birth to more and more and more baby girls I am overcome with sadness everytime. So bad the my chest gets this heavy burning sensation. I'm so afraid if I start to cry I might literally never stop. I'm lucky. I have a healthy son. A loving husband. A wonderful house in a great neighbourhood. But I just can't shake the feelings. I feel guilty everytime I feel it too because what kind of mother does this?!?!?! Seriously. Any kind words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated.
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Hi moms, sorry this will be so long but I am freaking out. I need to hear some advice or stories from anyone who has experienced this and would be so kind as to share those experiences or outcomes. My son is 2.5. He is very bright, very social, active, busy and incredibly joyful and personable. A few days ago he was at his ears like they were bothering him so we had him checked out and nothing. The Dr said allergies were horrible right now and it was likely just that. He began tilting his head to rub his ears on his shoulders and so thinking they were itchy got him some toddler Claritin. The shrugging persisted a couple days followed by squeezing his eyes shut and would wake up with slightly crusted eyes. Eyes would water periodically and... Read More
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I noticed a lump on the left side of my daughters neck. My daughter will be 2 in may. I noticed the lump a while back but thought nothing of it. I've been monitoring it and decided to ask her dr about it in February. The Dr looked and felt it but said that my daughter is probably getting sick. That was 2 months ago and the lump is still there. I can't get in to see the dr until may. Could this be cancer? Should I try to get in sooner? I'm really nervous because my grandma and 3 aunts have passed away from different types of cancer.
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
So I've been thinking about waxing lately. I've never waxed anything other than my eyebrows before and the idea intrigues me and yet terrifies me at the same time. For those of you who do wax where do you go? Did you have a positive experience? Roughly how long does it last? I want to feel like I don't have to continually be grooming myself...
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Long post here sorry ladies! Trust and addiction.... My hubby and I have been together for 7 years now. He had a history of excessive cocaine use when he was in his last relationship. Bit quit when they broke up. When we first started dating he would partake every once and awhile at a party. But I wantes it to stop, so he said he would. This is not a habit of mine. Never done it never will. When We found out we were pregnant we were both very exceted. When I was 11 weeks pregnant I found empty baggies in his drawer. When confronted he said they were from a long time ago. But he started getting more distant from everyone, isolating himself in his garage, and staying up will the crack of dawn several times a week. Fast forward 1 year, we now... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
I have saggy bf boobs and both are of different size. I am In serious need of slightly padded bra that brings some confidence back. would really appreciate some recommendations .
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Hello! When did you guys feel "done"? I have two beautiful healthy boys and don't think I am done. There is the realistic side of me that says we are done and I do so the pros of just having two. And this baby has given me some trying days. However, I just feel like this can't be my last baby. My husband is definitely on the done side but i don't know if that's 100% (he is just more practice and I am more emotional). Just looking for peoples insite of that feeling. TIA
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Looking to connect a dear friend of mine who is looking for a donor egg, with anyone who has any insight as to where she can try to find a donor privately. Has anyone successfully found a private donor and can provide some advice or suggestions?
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
I'm a FTM and my little one will soon be 5 months old and VERY interrested in what is on my plate....and I am freaking out. It scares me. I haven't a clue where to start. We are all bombarded with sooo much information about first foods. Where does one start?!!! What was the very first thing you fed your little one, and at what age? And please follow up with when you introduced a second flavour/food item. Btw, I am totally game with making my own purred sweet partitas or banana avocados mash or whatever it is we feed babies at first. ๐Ÿ˜ง I'm doing this anonymously because I am embarrassed that I am frightened to start feeding real foods ๐Ÿ˜”

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This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Hey ladies. Has anyone experienced a negative or disappointing response from family or friends when you announced a pregnancy? My husband and I just told my parents yesterday that we are expecting our 3rd and my mom's first response was literally "oh that's why you've been so crabby". She can be rude and sometimes doesn't have a filter but this really caught me off guard. I was too in shock to really say anything. I just replied with "oh" and my husband said "that's not cool" and she just laughed. It really hurt my feelings though. She went on to be excited and ask all the normal questions and stuff but that initial reaction is really sticking in my head bothering me. Just looking to vent really or commiserate with anyone else who had a sim... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Magnetic Moms 2014 (Victoria, BC)
I need of help... my hubby has lost his passion.. for music and life in general.. he's played guitar for 30 years and it's been weeks... he hasn't had a decent sleep since our toddler was born- he is stuck in a job he hates, and another that he is watching die... moving away isn't an option (elderly grandparents).. I was thinking a career councillor?? But he seems to think it won't help.. what options does someone with no post secondary have?? It's breaking my heart not being able to help.. he told me that if it wasn't for me and the kids he probably would just end it..๐Ÿ˜“๐Ÿ˜”
This was posted anonymously to Mosaic Moms 2017 (Victoria, BC)
So overwhelmed!!! I am pregnant with my first and feel like I have too much on my plate right now. My mom has been fighting cancer since last year and we are very lucky her treatment is going well. She had major surgery to remove tumors and now chemo to make sure we got it all. I am her support person/translator (she doesn't speak much English. I know I have so much to be thankful for but I am overwhelmed with doctor's appointments, bills, and paperwork and lawyer appointments for immigration (working on her residency). Right now, I just want to be a pregnant woman and focus on my baby and I but I cant and so worried this stress is nad for the baby. I am always agitated and this is affecting my relationship with my mom cause I feel so rese... Read More
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This is a long shot, but does anyone have experience (or know someone that does) with complex twin pregnancies, specifically where only one twin is viable? We've just been told I'm carrying twins, but only one is likely to live. They are in something called a TRAP sequence (Twin Reverse Arterial Perfusion), which means the unviable twin is still "hooked up" to the healthy twin and is demanding bloodflow, which is a strain on the healthy twin (who now has to pump for two). It's really rare, but I thought it was worth a shot seeing if anyone out there has any experience with this (or any of the peri-natologists at VGH). Thanks!
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
I'm at a lost with what to do. My partner & I have a nearly 1 year old & to be honest our relationship isn't great. I resent him so much from being out of work for over 5 months & not actively looking yet he denies this as he considers applying online to at least 2 jobs a week is sufficient & when he was working back in October he just wanted to quit & complain about going to work yet never seeked to find a different job he might enjoy. I guess he was not doing a good job at work as the boss would tell him not to come in until finally he said there is no work for him. So since mid November my anger has grown since we are living off mat leave $ only & so finances are tough & all this has made me really NOT enjoy my mat leave as he's always a... Read More
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Looking to see if there are any Doulas in Victoria who have a medical background and experience in dealing with high needs newborns with complex medical challenges? Requiring nasogastric tube feeding, lots of medications, etc. Looking for a mom and Dad who really need respite but also require someone who can fill in for babies high medical needs.... looked into nursing but they only do the medical part... is this sort of dual service possible at all? Emotional/medical?