This was posted anonymously to Magnificent Moms 2015 (Victoria, BC)
I'm hoping to find some similarly minded moms, and praying this doesn't start a debate. When our little one was born I was determined not to co-sleep, not that there is anything wrong with it, I just was too scared to. Fast forward a year later and bringing our son into bed is the only way we all sleep through the night. He falls asleep on his own in his crib around 7-7:30 and will usually stay in there until 2 or 3am. We've been bringing him into bed at that point for the last 6 months and quite honestly I love it. We all do. Waking up to his sleeping face beside me and snuggling first thing when his eyes open makes my whole day. I'm wondering though if we are causing issues by continuing this? We don't have it in us to stop as we enjoy it... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
I need help. Sleep trained my 7 month old guy at night and decided to do naps too. My partner stayed in room with him until he fell asleep but babe is worse with mom in the room. Naps he cries for up to hour and 10, which is breaking my heart. But does not fucking sleep in his crib for naps! I end up giving in and walking the entire day. At night be cries for about 20 min and doesn't wake up in the night. We have same routine for day except I just leave because he seems worse when I'm in with him. What do I do? I feel like I'm just torturing him! Does this get better?

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This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Looking for a personal stylist. I lost my mother when I was quite young and my sister moved out at an early age. I feel like I never learned to take care of myself basics like make up doing your hair right putting together outfits. I try to follow bloggers and youtubers for help. But makeup and hair style is where it all gets stuck. Is there a person you go see who helps you buy makeup based on your skin and face traches you simple ways to put it on and couple of easy to do hairstyles that you can then diy on regular basis?
This was posted anonymously to Magnetic Moms 2014 (Victoria, BC)
My father in law recently started dating again, 2+ years after losing his wife. I think it's great that he's dating and happy... except that his new girlfriend is married and apparently has no intention of getting a divorce. It makes me really uncomfortable having this woman taking on a grandmother role with my kids. I worry that at some point they'll ask why she isn't at Christmas dinner, etc, and I'll have to explain that she spends the holidays with her "other" family. Plus, I don't really want my kids growing up thinking this sort of situation is normal. When I've raised this with my husband, he tells me I'm being judgemental and to let it go. I really wouldn't feel comfortable talking to my FIL about this (they aren't a "let's talk abo... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Magnetic Moms 2014 (Victoria, BC)
I was diagnosed with herpes yesterday. I have been with my husband for 7 years, I had a physical done after my daughter was born in 2015. The Dr believes it most likely came from his mouth. He gets cold sores occasionally but didn't have one when we he was down there orally. I've read it can still be transmitted without sores being present. He sworn up and down that he has been faithful, (my spider sense is usually really great) and I believe him. But wow... from his mouth!!!!I can't believe this is my new reality. It is so uncomfortable. Looking for advice, relief tips, and maybe someone that can talk me off my ledge that is living with it. I am started on Valacyclovir.
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Does anyone have any experience with their toddler or even an older child having a geographic tongue? The other night as I was brushing my two year olds teeth, I noticed a spot resembling a geographic map on his tongue. The spot enlargened by the next morning. Our family doctor does not seem too concerned but I'm being overly paranoid about it.
This was posted anonymously to Mosaic Moms 2017 (Victoria, BC)
My husband has been telling me lately that I'm always short with him and I'm taking "everything" out on him. Honestly I don't really see it... I admit I am probably a bit more snarky than my usual self, but I am taking care of a baby 24/7 and I'm exhausted! I just feel like telling him to get over it. We are both making sacrifices right now and life is not what it used to be so put on your big boy pants and get used to it. Ugh. Am I being too dismissive of his feelings? I don't want him to think I don't love him anymore or want to be with him, but I just can't bring myself to keep saying sorry repeatedly.

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It's time for a career change. Thinking of going into HR. How do I transition from a an Admin Supervisory job to HR? I have a BA, Graduate Certificate in Project Management & Masters. Anyone in HR here? Tips? I reside in Victoria, BC.I have no problem starting from the bottom and work my way up. Not planning to go back to school anytime soon. If I can get into HR I will definitely work towards a designation in the field.Staying at my current job or career path is not a choice as I have reached the end of this journey.
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Feeling Proud but private... I really felt the need to post something to my group of beloved mom friends.. there is so much support here but I am an extremely private person and though I am very proud, I would never post on my own page as I am massively private about my most personal valued things. I am 9 years Sober today. My husband baked me a beautiful cake to celebrate. Admittedly I haven't been to a meeting since before we moved and there aren't as many meetings here and with a needy baby and my refusal to take my typically terrible two year old to meetings has meant I have turned to confiding in friends who are also sober and will start meetings again once things settle better with baby. I just really wanted to be able to sa... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mosaic Moms 2017 (Victoria, BC)
My husband has an upcoming stag to attend, where he will be away (out of town) for 2 nights and 3 days. Our only child will be 7 months old. I am upset that my husband just assumes he can go. To be honest, I would like him to go, but it upsets me that as a mother of a young baby, I would have to jump through hoops to go away for two nights, and he doesn't even have to think twice about leaving. Am I acting crazy?
This was posted anonymously to Thunder Bay Moms (Thunder Bay, ON)
Anyone been to the Spence clinic for a transvaginal/pelvic ultrasound? Do they hurt?
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
I feel like I'm not doing well. Im having troubles staying happy. On top of that i feel useless. Like i can't do anything right. My temper is so high that im scared of myself. Like i want to give up but i know i cant because i have baby to take care of. I feel like everything i do is wrong. I dont know where this is going. Just need support and to vent. Thanks for reading.
This was posted anonymously to Majestic Moms 2013 (Victoria, BC)
What do you moms do for work? Are you in love with your job? I find over the past 6-12 months I've lost all passion for my work.....and it's beginning to show. The company I work for has been bought, sold, restructured, etc so many times that I've lost any of the people I used to know, so not only am I not enjoying the work, I'm also very lonely while I'm there. I have a university degree (that's now hopelessly out of date), but I never worked in that field because the work I wanted to do was overseas. And now that I'm a mom, there's no way I'd uproot my kid to go off chasing a job that would take us both away from family and home. Family ask me if I didn't do my current job, what would I like to do instead....and I have no answer... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Magnificent Moms 2015 (Victoria, BC)
I don't feel connected to my husband anymore since having our child but esp. Since moving closer to his family and mine. My mil had some problems over the summer after we had to temporarily stay with her which has left a very bad impression in my mind about who I married. I feel helpless living near the person that hurt me now and it has changed how I view my husband. I have no desire to be intimate and it's exhausting talking to him bc all he does is rationalize, manipulate and make my ideas seem absurd and illogical. I just want to get away and start a new life where I'd be happier. I feel freer to think and be myself when he's not around. I'm concerned that I'm in a controlling situation. I honestly think that if we didn't have... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Magnificent Moms 2015 (Victoria, BC)
Mamas that have been left by their husbands- on pretty decent terms or amicably- How do you go through the day to day stuff?! I'm about 5 months out of my separation, and still miss him immensely, because he's generally a good guy. I've tried dating, in fact I'm seeing this man who is absolutely head over heels for me, but he lives in the middle of the ocean so our chances of working out are slim! Anyhow I get overwhelming sensations of missing my husband, and wanted to know how other women have coped when those feelings emerge. I've done counseling since we split (very frequently) and it has helped a bit, but still it hurts. Some days are better than others, but on the tough days it's soooo tough! I've got 2 children that I love so much,... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Magnificent Moms 2015 (Victoria, BC)
Does anyone have an anxious toddler? My two year old has extreme stranger aniexty, and often with family members too. We cannot go to family functions like bbqs, or to people's houses for play dates as she will sob and close her eyes. She is honestly terrified. If a stranger were to talk to her in a store she will either hide her face or cry. I see other toddlers chatting to everyone without hesitation. I've talked to public health and they said it is likely anxiety but she's so young (just turned 2). Just wondering if anyone has been through this with theirs.
This was posted anonymously to Majestic Moms 2013 (Victoria, BC)
Looking for a good parenting book. I've been struggling with my almost 6 year old's behavior for some time. Right now I'm having troubles battling back-talk and rudeness. From friends I talk to, these are normal 5-6 year old struggles but I'm still not happy with his level of respect for adults.
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Hey mamas, So I have a question regarding sex. So, abit of a TMI post. 🙊 Me and my partner have been together 2 1/2 years, and in those years there has only been a handle of times where I have been "on top" during intercourse. 😫 And after having babe we barely have sex, but within the past couple of weeks I can feel my sex drive coming back more, and last night I tried to go on top after not doing so for awhile, and I felt so awkward, like I didn't know what to do with my hips or legs... ugh! I felt uncomfortable being on top before we had babe but now I feel much more insecure about my body that it's just more uncomfortable now for me.. And he's mentioned a couple times that he would like me to "do the work", but I can't seem to get... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Magnetic Moms 2014 (Victoria, BC)
So, I have been married to my husband for 6 years now. He is a great guy, works hard, amazing dad, lives for our three kids and is very supportive of me. But I have never been truly madly deeply in love with him and he knows that. We fight a lot over different values and rules. We don't seem to enjoy our time together at all, for years now (or basically since before kids even). And I have been head over heels in love with an ex for longer than I was even aware of. I have a hard time getting said ex out of my head. ALL THE TIME. The ex and I never lasted (and barely started) because I was petrified of the connection and kept resorting to "being friends", but only now a decade later do I understand it and long for a connection of that sort. W... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Mamas, I'm low. Like really low. I'm so far down that it seems like it's impossible to crawl out of this hole. I did have PPD and I've been on medication for almost a year now. I'm the heaviest and the unhealthiest I've ever been. I've been eating my feelings for a long time. Drinking too much wine. I feel so unattractive and I'm just uncomfortable in my own skin. Things with my husband are awful. I'm not sure there is even love there anymore? And I really don't feel like a I have a great support system right now in family and friends. So many long stories there. I'm not taking the time to reach out to friends, i feel like I'm neglecting my kids and I mentally know I need to make changes. I even know what to do to get healthy and happy... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
My partner of 7 years is a functioning addict of alcohol and drugs and he is in complete denial that anything could possibly be wrong with his behaviours. He was like this long before we met. I thought it was a phase in his life like it was for me but he says his "recreational" use is a lifestyle he isn't ready to give up. We are starting couples counselling this weekend, but I am wanting to start attending AA or NA meetings for family members of addicts, not for the addicts themselves. Any recommendations on groups and meet ups in Victoria or Langford strongly appreciated.
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Today while I was at a dentist appointment in town, I left my husband with our two kids (7 months and 3 years old). Tonight he just told me that while I was gone, that he jerked it in the kitchen while the kids were in the living room (which apparently only took like 5 minutes🙄). Am I crazy for being super upset about this?? He seems to think I'm delusional.
This was posted anonymously to Mommble Moms Okanagan 2016 (Okanagan, BC)
I feel doomed and feel depression is around the corner. I have read everything there is about sleep training. Near everything, I could be a consultant or at least give you a very good run down of the many options/tricks/combinations out there. The problem is, I either know it won't work for LO (and me) or I refuse to try it such as CIO. I've even scoured the internet for magic devices only to learn most are fire hazards. I feel my lack of options and my lack of action will result in what I'm trying to avoid, my lo being traumatized just so she will sleep on her own, without the boob, without me. She's very sensitive, does not have a village of support and has very poor self soothing skills. I've had multiple plans but backed out o... Read More