This was posted anonymously to Magnificent Moms 2015 (Victoria, BC)
Curious about complications after vasectomy. My husband had a vasectomy a week ago and he's been in bed ever since. I had to take him to emergency a couple nights ago as we suspected a hematoma but he got sent away with T3's and told it was just post op pain. We finally discovered he actually has as infection and he's now on a course of antibiotics and is still currently bed ridden as it's so painful for him to move. This has been hell for him! I'm hoping everything starts to heal now and we can move on from this. Have any of you had a partner/husband go through this? I can't wait to have my man back again! Wishing we didn't go his route now.
This was posted anonymously to Magnificent Moms 2015 (Victoria, BC)
Hey moms. This may be blasphemous to some of you...... I've never masturbated.. EVER. Now that I've found myself a single mom, the need for self care has come up for me. I don't even know where to start. I've never used toys, never touched myself-- I've always been quite content with what my partner offers. Gah..... I even feel weird posting this! Hopefully this is still anonymous! Ha! If it wasn't this would literally send me to the grave! Anyhow, tips? (No pun intended) I'm not a casual sex person, but definitely wouldn't turn it down now... but I'm also super self conscious about the way I look, fearing I'm not attractive enough to be hit on- because I haven't been in a while (or because I haven't noticed?) IDK, I'm rambling. I need sex... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
The older my son gets the more anxious I get about returning to work and resenting my husband for not making more money. Each birthday milestone for my son is filled with the countdown that is return to work. I celebrate his birthday and enjoy seeing the growth in his mind and body. It's truly amazing to watch, but I can't shake off this dread in the back of my mind. My dream job has always been to be a stay at home mom. I do realize in this day and age it's not feasible. We cannot leave Victoria as we are the main supports for family and we wouldn't have it any other way. I'm resentful I'm the breadwinner. My husband doesn't seem motivated to make more and is lost in a career path that hasn't worked out. I'm trying to not be irrati... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Grrr. Just picked up my 7 month old from granny. She had taken him to hillside mall and had him on the ride on toys... sucking and chewing on them! Are you kidding me? With all the terrible flus and bugs going around right now?? I was gone an hour. So frustrated. And she said it was no big deal. Of course not, if she's not the one at home dealing with him and his brother. Grrrrrr. Use your brain.
This was posted anonymously to Magnificent Moms 2015 (Victoria, BC)
I need some career advice. I'm a mostly sahm with my almost 2 yr old. I work casually as RN right now but am seriously worried about my social and career impact. I've been offered a position with specialized training in another province where I would have no help from any family and hubby (temporarily). I got contacted for this position after we just moved!! I don't know what to do! It's for 3 night shifts per week. I would have daycare during the day while I'm sleeping and I'd need to hire a nanny at night. I'm thinking oF not permanently moving yet until I see if I like the position first. Maybe stay in a furnished place first and even bring my mom with me for the first few weeks. AM I crazy for even considering this?! My hubby t... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Bear with me mighties, this is going to be a "poor me" post. I've been having a bit of a pity party lately. Not sure if it's my hormones because of recently going back on birth control or what... But I've been a little depressed, not myself to say the least. I'm feeling very isolated lately. I'm a SAHM and I really wish I had more mom friends. I have met up with a few mighties and we have nice play dates, but I don't feel I've truly connected with someone yet. Someone I can text and say "what are you doing right now? Wanna go for a walk?" And then actually WANT to go walk with them without feeling like I have absolutely nothing to talk about besides the baby. I haven't found that "mom friend" who I can have play dates with, but also... Read More

MOMMBLE THIS WEEK (11) Mindfulness

On mindfulness: I found an article on mindfulness in the Time Colonist (Victoria, BC) and wanted to share a link with you here: Mindfulness program teaches moms meditative approach to parenting Mindfulness, put simply, is a type of meditation in which the practitioner learns to concentrate on living in the moment. With special mental checklists, routines and practices, a person strives to be aware of whatโ€™s happening around them... And with no past to obsess over and little concept of a future to worry abo... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mommble Moms London 2016 (London, ON)
I can't believe I am writing this but my partner has always been quick to anger and last night when a girlfriend from out of town stopped in to visit me unannounced he came downstairs and got very angry at me about waking up the baby, completely ignored her, and then stormed upstairs. I was so embarrassed I didn't even know how to excuse his behavior. When I got to thinking about it, he gets angry anytime I see my friends and I have found myself not really seeing a lot of friends since being with him. I later asked him why he was so mad and he told me that he is sick of working 40 hours a week and me having the perfect life and being able to do whatever I want while he is stuck working. I told him that I didn't think that excused h... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Sex! How often are you 'doing it'? I'm 4 months pp and we've tried to have sex once. We waited the recommended 6 weeks as I had a horrific vaginal birth with servere tearing. I got the ok from the Dr at 6 weeks and was super excited (and horny ๐Ÿ˜) and... nothing. Eventually at 10 weeks pp we managed to both be in the same 'zone' and got down to it but the pain was unreal. We had to avoid penetration but otherwise we both had a great time. I've been massaging and stretching the area since then and have tried to initiate sex LOTS- Moma has needs but I also want to make sure everything's working before I go to my next Drs appointment. My SO just isn't interested. He goes to bed early as he starts work at 6am and I get that he m... Read More
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My 9 month old daughter is learning to stand and she fell and hit her face now she has a bruise by her eye. I feel so bad that it happen as I'm suppose to protect her from getting hurt. I feel like if I go out side people will judge me and think I did it or that I'm a bad mom cause I wasn't watching her as close as I should have been.
This was posted anonymously to Magnificent Moms 2015 (Victoria, BC)
I'm an older mom with a two year old, still trying to decide if we are one and done or if trying for a 2nd is what's right for our family. Husband would like another baby and on easy days, I would too. On hard days though... ugh, I just don't know. My main hesitation is how I'd cope with a 2nd since we're in a good groove now. I'm kinda scared to go through all the first year stress again with the newborn stage, lack of sleep, especially after navigating through PPA/PPD. I guess I'm kind of scared to shake things up, all while having a very active toddler to chase around. Mom's who have more than one child... is it as hard as I think it is to juggle two kids?
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
I was just going through a post on a parent financial group that is also island based. Someone asked about costs for growing kids and how it increases considerably. Which included sports food and clothes. I could feel the stress those parents go through from some kids not having the same opportunities as others. While my babe is only 10 months and for now I keep it super basic only buy toys off varage and keep replacing them. Basic with clothes and all. But even I can see it growing as he grows. i don't know if it was that moment but it really stressed me out and made me question why we have kids ? It can be really stressful financially. I am not sure what I am looking for here but do you mamas ever think about it? I hear a lot "we are happ... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
NBR- Thinking of buying in the Highlands. So, I've always lived really central. Our house is just becoming to small and to valuable not to sell. It's time to trade up. Our budget is good over a mil, however, I feel that in my price range in town won't get me nothing but a fixer upper. I don't want to go to max budget either because I don't want to be completely house broke. I'm imagining an idyllic life for my son where he would have this huge yard with a wicked play set. I imagine we will make friends in the Westshore. My MIL is looking for every flaw in the area from the volunteer fire department to the wall paper in the house. She terrified about the schools in the Westshore. Which I think might be pretty good because there are... Read More

Mommble Job Board: Victoria, BC + area

Have a job you are looking to hire for? Post it here! This page is shared across the Mommble network & listings are free. Why should you hire a mom? Because moms are wired to kick ass. Please copy the format below and paste in a comment. As closing dates are reached listings will be deleted. Please keep listings neat as they are easier to read that way. Happy job hunting! JOB TITLE: EMPLOYER: LINKS (WEBSITE, FACEBOOK ETC):... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Magnetic Moms 2014 (Victoria, BC)
So I'm pretty sure I have post-partum depression. I had an emergency c-section with my baby and it was very traumatizing, and I think that it is stemming from that. I was very angry afterward, but thought that the anger was dissipating after having talked with a counsellor. I'm not so sure about that anymore as I find myself becoming more and more aggressive with the baby and less and less able to control feelings of rage when things get hard. I am seeing the counsellor again to talk about this and other feelings that I know to be associated with post-partum depression. I feel like I have support in this way, but the problem is with my husband. It's as if he doesn't even notice or he just doesn't care - I don't know which. I had a full on b... Read More
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Have any of you decided to cut a parent out of your life completely after having your children and if so do you regret it? My mother and I have never gotten along and she has always created conflict within our family throughout our childhood as well as with her friendships and neighbours. I believe she has a mental illness but refuses to seek therapy or treatment. She used my dad's money to always gain the upper hand and manipulated her children with it. Now that my dad has passed and my one brother moved as far away from her as he could and my other brother rarely sees her, she is full of anxiety. She has few friends and no relationship with family. She lives close to me now and wants to come visit the baby 2x a month whereas befo... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Magnificent Moms 2015 (Victoria, BC)
Hey mom, I'm increasingly getting more streseed out. My daughters dad, has court and may go to prison.. we're not sure. Our lives have been chaos for quite sometime. I can't work at the moment, and we have been working on getting back together. I'm actually pregnant with our second child. I just don't know what to do right now. I'm waiting to get into housing, but I have no idea what I'll be doing for work (please no mlm at this time as I have one in mind). I did want to go back to school, but that seems unfeasible as I'm 14 weeks pregnant with a 2 year old. I'm barely making it by as it is right now, I just want any info I can get my hands on.. or any advice. . Maybe I just came here to vent I'm not sure. Thank you.๐Ÿ’–
This was posted anonymously to Thunder Bay Moms (Thunder Bay, ON)
I'm worried about ovarian cancer/ovarian cysts. This is partly due to a mild ovulation type feeling that's lasted a few days (going on day 4 now) in my left side. I've also had nausea and reflux for a few months. The feeling doesn't hurt, it feels like a little gas bubble or stitch in my side. I am going to talk to my family dr and bring it up at my OBGYN appointment in May. What will they do to test for it? I know a transvaginal ultrasound will be done if they're concerned but how will they check to see if there's anything to be concerned about? I'm only 23, will they not take me seriously?
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My sister is the only family I have in this province and due to addiction, anxiety and what I call " dumb as fuck not thinking" she has consistently either missed or ruined big life milestones for me. I get mental health and addictions plays a significant part in her inability to follow through with what I consider the most basic of plans. ......but I'm just so sick of it. It's draining on my entire family when yet again Auntie screws up Anyone dealing with a similar situation? She's truly not a mean nor bad person, she's actually really very kind ....but the years of mesesups and inability to get anything done as simple as confirming a meeting time has left me drained and angry . As of right now I don't contact her unless... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Moxie Moms 2012 (Victoria, BC)
I'm looking for some advice. My almost 5 year old daughter has a buddy that she plays with often who is a year and a half older than her. With all other friends, cousins, etc. our daughter is empathetic, inclusive, and tends to err on the side of being concerned/supportive when she's faced with others being mean or teasing, etc. But with this one friend, my daughter has behaved in a mean way and she also often ends up in tears. Most of the time they play together really nicely, and most of the time I think this other child is very kind and sweet. But I've overheard her being quite mean - she's made fun of what my daughter is eating, has excluded by whispering or just outright saying she's not allowed to say or do something, and sometimes se... Read More
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So a little bit of a rant post . My partners dad and step mom were so excited when we had our son. They live in Ontario so I know it's far but they would call, FaceTime, send gifts, post on Facebook, visit, we have also been there a couple times. Anyways this only lasted about a year. He is over two now and they have other new grand babies closer. Ever since they were born they haven't even talked to us, didn't even call on our sons birthday or Christmas or anything. They are constantly raving about their other grand children. I just feel sad that our son is totally on the back burner. My husband doesn't seem to care. I find my self thinking about this lots. Suggestions on how to get this off my mind ?
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What do you do when your partner has a completely different parenting style to your own? I have tried sharing Janet Lansbury's articles and others about child development (he hasn't taken it upon himself to read about norms so has really unrealistic expectations about his behaviour), that subtle approach didn't work. I've tried making gentle suggestions but he feels like I'm criticizing him if I say anything which is ironic because he is so critical of our 2.5 year old! This morning he told him in the span of an hour that he was being "mean", "difficult", and "bossy" He also doesn't provide him with enough autonomy to make decisions (example, partner picks son's clothes and tries to dress him because he doesn't want to wait, when our son dr... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
I have made the decision to leave my partner but my life is so intertwined with his i dont know where to start the process. I dont want to tell him till i get stuff set up. Im going back to work but dont get my first pay check till the middle if april. I dont know how im going to live with him till then and how im going to get out with the least amout of fighting and stress. I just know its going to be a gong show and feeling very overwhelmed by it. Then to add to it im very sad that im going back to work and leaving my son. I dont want to go back.
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Hey ladies! Is anyone using or has used Depo Provera as a method of birth control? I'm 35 and still uncertain if I want to have another baby therefore I don't want my husband getting a vasectomy just yet. I'm too scared to get an IUD inserted and don't want to take both control pills. Just wanted to hear of the pros/cons and side effects you may have experienced! TIA
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Needing advice on recently becoming a single mother... My partner and I split up this morning..now I am feeling a bit lost. What is the next step? I feel totally alone as all my friends have stopped talking to me since having baby. I guess I'm just looking for some support in this difficult time. Any single mom's out there have any advice on what to do next? How did you get through this difficult transition financially? We have over $1600 in unpaid bills together..they are all in my name...how do I recover from this? How do you get used to being alone? I made any post over a month ago about our situation and made the decision to end things so our son can grow up in a loving home not one where everyone's fighting all the time. How do I re... Read More