This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Lately I'm feeling a bit of a disconnect with my husband. We have a wonderful relationship, however since the birth of our baby sex has been a lot less. Now there are all the normal reason why, healing, newborn, not sleeping, breastfeeding, reduced sex drive etc. Now I feel like all of these are way less and I'm missing sex. Now both my husband and I have never pressured each other for sex. We have both been happy with the amount of sex we were having. Now it's significantly reduced and I'm missing the passion and deeper intimacy. I don't know what to do to help spark the flame. Hubby has never been into fancy bras/underwear (fine by me because it's expensive 😂) he's not super adventurous with positions. Lately when we do have sex w... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mosaic Moms 2017 (Victoria, BC)
So I'm 32 weeks pregnant and I an wondering how often did you/do you and your So have sex entering the last week's of pregnancy? We have been pretty good, having sex every other day pretty much the whole pregnancy. But my huge body, sore back and hips is making it hard for me. I'm thinking every other day is too hard on me and my body.. How often are you having sex or how often did you once you got bigger? Also were your So supportive if that.... I get shamed a little and I hate it... It's not ok.
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Has anyone lost their g-spot? I know it can't technically go away, but things are different postpartum. I feel like my front (?) vaginal wall is lower (internally if that makes sense?) I can't seem to find my spot, and hubby hasn't hit it either. It's as though my vaginal wall has blocked the spot or something. It doesn't seem "too soon" postpartum (9 months), but I'm still nursing so I know my hormones are not back to normal yet. Sex isn't bad, but I'm missing those insane orgasms! I even feel like my clit shrunk or something too. Is there anyone else out there that has experienced this or something similar?
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Anyone else wish they could buy a sex drive? Feeling bad for my husband, who tries hard to engage in sex frequently but I have less than zero interest. I feel like I should just give in and go with it, but the last time was very painful for me. I'm almost 6 months pp, and we have our room back, but I still am always exhausted and just have no desire to be more intimate than cuddling or touching, which, now very often leads to my poor deprived husband getting turned on. Advice/reassurance?
This was posted anonymously to Mommble Moms London 2016 (London, ON)
Hi so This is kinda a weird topic but hear goes it.... I've been bisexual for a long time always have had a liking for both genders. My current parent who is the father to my child been together for 3 years almost 4 doesn't know this. I've never felt comfortable telling him this... But I've been feeling really sexually strained from not being with a girl... I feel like if I tell my partner he's going to be mad an if I don't I don't know what's going to happen... I feel the need to be with a girl so bad... 😭 help
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This was posted anonymously to Magnificent Moms 2015 (Victoria, BC)
Curious about complications after vasectomy. My husband had a vasectomy a week ago and he's been in bed ever since. I had to take him to emergency a couple nights ago as we suspected a hematoma but he got sent away with T3's and told it was just post op pain. We finally discovered he actually has as infection and he's now on a course of antibiotics and is still currently bed ridden as it's so painful for him to move. This has been hell for him! I'm hoping everything starts to heal now and we can move on from this. Have any of you had a partner/husband go through this? I can't wait to have my man back again! Wishing we didn't go his route now.
This was posted anonymously to Magnificent Moms 2015 (Victoria, BC)
Hey moms. This may be blasphemous to some of you...... I've never masturbated.. EVER. Now that I've found myself a single mom, the need for self care has come up for me. I don't even know where to start. I've never used toys, never touched myself-- I've always been quite content with what my partner offers. Gah..... I even feel weird posting this! Hopefully this is still anonymous! Ha! If it wasn't this would literally send me to the grave! Anyhow, tips? (No pun intended) I'm not a casual sex person, but definitely wouldn't turn it down now... but I'm also super self conscious about the way I look, fearing I'm not attractive enough to be hit on- because I haven't been in a while (or because I haven't noticed?) IDK, I'm rambling. I need sex... Read More
I guess I kind of figured that once I had my first child I would officially be a pro at sex. I mean, I had done it so well that I had brought forth a child from my talents, and I was now officially… (via Scary Mommy)
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Sex! How often are you 'doing it'? I'm 4 months pp and we've tried to have sex once. We waited the recommended 6 weeks as I had a horrific vaginal birth with servere tearing. I got the ok from the Dr at 6 weeks and was super excited (and horny 😝) and... nothing. Eventually at 10 weeks pp we managed to both be in the same 'zone' and got down to it but the pain was unreal. We had to avoid penetration but otherwise we both had a great time. I've been massaging and stretching the area since then and have tried to initiate sex LOTS- Moma has needs but I also want to make sure everything's working before I go to my next Drs appointment. My SO just isn't interested. He goes to bed early as he starts work at 6am and I get that he m... Read More
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Hey ladies! Is anyone using or has used Depo Provera as a method of birth control? I'm 35 and still uncertain if I want to have another baby therefore I don't want my husband getting a vasectomy just yet. I'm too scared to get an IUD inserted and don't want to take both control pills. Just wanted to hear of the pros/cons and side effects you may have experienced! TIA
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Orgasms! I'm trying to process something and wonder what others have experience about Orgasm. I've been having sex since I was 21 and never had an orgasm with any partner. I can have one using a vibrator. I have enjoyed sex in my relationships even without an orgasm. I have been with my husband for 3 yrs. I finally had an orgasm with him 6 Mos ago and it was soo Amazing. Before if sex was short I didn't mind but now when he cums quickly and I haven't orgasm I get so damn mad and then I have to use my vibrator. After having orgasm with him I no longer like using my vibrator lol. My sex drive is back after 2 kids . It is unrealistic to expect to orgasm every time we have intercourse? It does take a while for me to orgasm and at a cert... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
I'm curious to know how many women have found that their partners porn use has been a problem or caused problems in their relationship? It seems like so many women have to deal with this. Every now then I can handle but I do feel like it's caused issues in our relationship over the years both directly and indirectly and I'm curious to know if other women have also suffered consequences from their partners use? All the studies I've read have pointed to porn causing more harm then good to those using it and to the romantic relationships they're in.
It happens to be the one thing women find hard to give. (via The Good Men Project)
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
First time mom here.. I had my period when my LO was 6 weeks (formula fed). It's been over 10 weeks and I'm feeling nervous... We've tried being careful but have been using the pull out sometimes . I'm scared to take a test. Is it normal for my period to be late? My husband doesn't know if he even wants more.. I do of course but not thinking this soon.. anyone else go through this or had a scare?
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Ladies I am feeling heartbroken. My husband has no desire to really touch me. The extent of our physical relationship are pecks on the lips before he goes to work and the occasional hug if I ask for it. We have maybe had sex 2 or 3 times in about 18 months. It makes me feel awful. Especially since body changes after baby, my self esteem is awful. I have tried explaining how this makes me feel too many times to count. It is now full blown resentment all the time. He tells me he finds me attractive and says I am beautiful. But even when I try to passionately kiss him he looks at me as if I am strange. He says there is nothing wrong..he is just not a touchy Feely person. I offer back rubs or massages for some form of intimacy but he constant... Read More
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Would love other women's opinion about a sexually noisey neighbor! My neighbor is a 30ish year old mother with two kids and a boyfriend and is aware that I am a mother of two as well. Not only are they completely inconsiderate when it comes to all noise (no care of time, really noisey/late neighbors, 6am full on convos on their balcony etc) their obnoxious loud sex is beginning to get ridiculous. They do it mid-day when my older son is eating his lunch and I had to say that they were playing a video game cause it was so over the top. Then a couple nights ago I was awoken at midnight and they clearly know the time and that we can obviously hear in the dead silence and they just don't give a shit. As a woman, mother and just as a g... Read More
Six weeks after my second son was born in 2009 I embarked on a "Six Month Sex Challenge." For six months I attempted to have sex with my husband at least once a week. The time was truly a roller-coaster ride and I've learned why it is just so darn di... (via The Huffington Post)
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Anyone else feel like they could easily never have sex again? I know that hormones while nursing can decrease your libido but I really could do without sex in my life anymore. DH has always had a much greater libido and is much more adventurous with sex than me, even when we were first married, long before children. Now I am starting to feel resentful of having to keep up this aspect of our marriage. By bedtime I am tired and just want to lay down with a book or watch a show and go to sleep. Plus DH is insistent that we have no more children but hates using condoms so I had an IUD put in and now I have constant spotting and bleeding which is such a hassle. I wish that I could just say to DH "If we are done having children then I am done hav... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mosaic Moms 2017 (Victoria, BC)
Need some ides on how to fix my sex-drive/sex-life. I have a wonderful patient loving partner, he is amazingly supportive and is willing to communicate and work on this with me. Sex, when we try for it, often ends with me in emotional tears. I'm not thrilled with my ever-changing body, I'm uncomfortable in most positions and my overall sensation is limited in ways I have never known before. I haven't climaxed from sex in close to 2 months. I usually have a high sex drive. I love my partner and I am wildly attracted to him. I want to make sex work! I just feel betrayed by my body not wanting, not enjoying and not seeming to need sex. I'm only around the half way mark of my pregnancy it's way, way, way too soon to give up on sex! Thoughts? Id... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Magnificent Moms 2015 (Victoria, BC)
How ofren do u have sex with ur partner after you have kid(s)? I get sooo frustrated that my husband demands every 2nd day. And he gets full weekends because he said it's weekend bonus. When my period comes, I still need to help him every 2nd day. He said that's the way he feels he's loved. He finds connection from sex. But, I'm freaking tired at the end of day. I also go to work, and my 2nd one still needs be fed through the nights. I have no desire at all. But I'll still do it because I know it's important to him. But I'll get frustrated and angry when he starts not listening because I skipped one or two of his demands. I fell asleep at bedtime feeding. He actually gets angry! Omg.. I can go without sex forever now, I rather sleeping or j... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Anyone swingers? Like sex swingging. My husband and I haven't really found a swingers group in this town, we used to be active fetlifers but since having a baby our appetite has changed. Or are there any websites out there better than others? TIA
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I apologize in advance. TMI, my phone is autocorrecting me a lot and I am a real angry mom right now to care about my grammar. I tell my boyfriend I'm not on birth control so we will have to be patient until then. He doesn't seem to understand to keep his penis off of me. He will actually have pre cum and rub it anywhere. Yes even right around my vagina. Sometimes when we're in bed it's all over the sheets. I get really angry because he thinks getting pregnant without asking me is okay. I have been with him for years and we have a good relationship. I know I should be on birth control. Sometimes it's hard to keep track and I have missed a few pills and have to wait to restart the cycle. I'm going to have the IUS inserted and I have told... Read More
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I dont know what to do...my fiance lied to me about watching porn. and i feel hurt. I have stated i dont feel comfortable with porn in our relationship and i feel so pissed and upset about it.
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