This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Following up to the recent one-partner sex post I read.... So this is hard to admit, but I've never had an orgasm. Am I like seriously the only one? And what can I do to fix it?... it sucks, at best sex feels like scratching an itch, and at worst a chore. I really really want this to not be the case. For religious reasons, masterbation is off limits - so then I'm sort of wondering if there are sex toys we can incorporate into the bedroom together to help things along? I wouldn't even know where to begin, and I don't want to start googling this kind of stuff..... Thanks so much, hive mamas.... it's definitely hard to put myself out there, but I'm thinking that someone in this group must have some gentle suggestions! PS: I do have ki... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Okay ladies. I need some advice. I've only ever had sex with my husband, so I consider myself still new to sex. With that being said, my husband is VERY old fashioned... I mean, he's only 28, but he's very "Vanilla" (I think that's what people say) when it comes to sex. I'm 23, and there are things I want to try! Now I'm not talking full on Fifty shades of grey stuff, but something other than just plain ol' sex in 2-3 positions in the bed... He's never down to have sex anywhere but our bed, and it's almost driving me insane. 😓 Ice tried to bring it up before, but it just gets shot down.... or typically it just goes in one ear and out the other.🤦 I need advice on how to get my hubby to be 'adventurous' with me. He had his crazy teen yea... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Can I admit to snooping around on the computer history even if my reaction to it isn't one hundred percent negative? For some reason I've always hated the idea of my boyfriend looking at porn, it was something to do with being self-conscious which I still very much so am. When I was a lot younger I fought tooth and nail to make sure that none of my boyfriends were looking at porn. Yet at the same time I still was? In a way I feel almost addicted?? Not in the unhealthy way I justI can't imagine not looking at porn during self-pleasure. When my relationship started my boyfriend said that he wasn't interested in porn (lol) so I never unleashed that side of me that would typically protest that. Well tonight I was getting ready to download a... Read More
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need to vent and commiserate. Why is sex so different after kids? I've always been a super sexual person and love sex, but lately it feels like a chore. I think it's because my husband doesn't really make me feel sexy and wanted all that much any more. Instead sex feels like a means to an ends and I'm just a vessel to reach that end. I told him that and then he turns around and just says if I want something different it's my responsibility to initiate it. I guess that's true, but what happened to romancing me and making me feel special? How can I effectively communicate my needs without having to be the one to have to do it? It all seems so cliché!
This was posted anonymously to Magnificent Moms 2015 (Victoria, BC)
I have a copper IUD and recently I've been experiencing severe pain and cramping (front and back) after intercourse. I never had this when I had the IUD pre- baby. Every time I go to the women's clinic to get it checked, they tell me it all looks great and that it is in the perfect position and have no idea why I'm experience this. This week it is even worse. Has anyone else experienced this?
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I have a copper IUD and recently I've been experiencing severe pain and cramping (front and back) after intercourse. I never had this when I had the IUD pre- baby. Every time I go to the women's clinic to get it checked, they tell me it all looks great and that it is in the perfect position and have no idea why I'm experience this. This week it is even worse. Has anyone else experienced this?
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Sooo much sex related resentment-- can I please share/vent? I've read all the referring threads so please don't post more links to similar sad ladies'....I hateeeee that my husband masturbates wayyyy more than he initiates sex with me. Tonight I am doing the laundry for the past week and almost every set of underpants Or shorts has telltale cum drops. He has made zero advances towards me this week. He says he is so tired all the time but manages to whack off giving his primary sexual energy to his hand and likely porn and then I sit alone With this ever-growing resentment. are all guys these days just wacking to porn on a regular basis,,, is this ok?i know it's about my personal boundaries what I think is ok .what about giving priority to t... Read More
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I feel like I've completely lost my libido. Any tips, drug recommendations, natural aphrodisiacs, etc.? Once we start fooling around I'm into it, but I just don't have a desire otherwise. My husband has a super high sex drive and wish I was as into it as him. Thanks for any advice!
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Can vaginal childbirth cause a woman to be unable to orgasm? My doctors quick look says there's nothing wrong, and my libido is still very low post partum. But I had this moment after the ring of fire where I was distinctly panicked that my clitoris was ripping. That was the centre of my pre baby pleasure, and post birth it's been non-responsive. Sex is... fine. Not painful, just missing that real enjoyment factor. Did anyone else feel their clit be effected during birth? How long can it take for libido to return if nothing is physically wrong?
This was posted anonymously to Mosaic Moms 2017 (Victoria, BC)
So last night my husband and I were fooling around. I was tired and originally didn't really feel into it, but changed my mind (even tho it was super late) and we were having fun. I can orgasm fairly easy and my husband is good in bed. We were both touching eachother and he gave me an orgasm and after I finished he said "see, I'm so good to you. Why aren't you good to me too?" Which completely threw me off. I kind of laid there, confused, and asked him what he meant. He said he feels like he's sexually frustrated. Which was a huge bomb dropping on me. We started our relationship as friends with benefits and sex has never been an issue. I've normally had a higher libido than him. But that basically killed the mood immediately, as I b... Read More
They typically say you can have sex about six weeks after delivering a baby. That doesn’t mean you want to have sex, it just means your body will not explode if you have sex at this point. Let&#821… (via Scary Mommy)
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Ladies. Sex is painful. I'm 8 months pp, and still breastfeeding, but actual intercourse hurts. Not a lubrication issue. What do I do? My poor sweet patient hubby and I keep trying but this is not comfortable, and I'm not sure where to go for help/what to do. Thanks mamas!
This was posted anonymously to Mosaic Moms 2017 (Victoria, BC)
How soon after your birth did you get "please" yourself? I am 3weeks PP and clearly sex is off the table, but what about masturbation? How soon did you "flick the bean?"
This was posted anonymously to Mommble Moms Vaughan 2016 (Vaughan, ON)
My husband and I have always had sex sparingly. I could tell from Day 1 that he wasn't a stereotypical guy and didn't have a crazy sex drive. I'm the opposite, which obviously means I'm consistently less-than-satisfied with our sex life. But I chose to put that aside when I married him bc he's wonderful in every other aspect, and I knew he would be a rockin' dad one day, which he has proven to be to our 6-month-old daughter. In the past we've gone as long as 6 months without having sex. I've talked to him about it... about how it makes me unhappy, about how there must be something wrong, about how it makes me feel unwanted... to which he always responds with an "I'm really sorry but it has nothing to do with you, I just don't like... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Sex... Good. Ol'. Sex. We all had it to make our babies, so why is it such a struggle afterwards? I came across a post on the MM page, where a fellow Momma was talking about having sex with her husband once a day, I'm NOT shaming you and I promise I don't mean any disrespect by this entry either, it just had me thinking a lot. My husband and I manage to go MONTHS without sex... This most recent time, it got to the point that I felt like I was making excuses not to have sex, and it made me feel terrible. I am SO self conscious since having baby #2 that I've been putting off Sex, and I don't even get changed infront of my husband... I know he still thinks I'm beautiful, but I dont. How can I try to better myself enough to get back on tr... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mosaic Moms 2017 (Victoria, BC)
How soon after you had baby did you and your partner resume intimacy? Whether it be you giving, rather then receiving? After birth ive never been so attracted to my partner and my sex drive is high. I haven't been cleared for sex, so next best thing :p I am about 2weeks PP
This was posted anonymously to Mosaic Moms 2017 (Victoria, BC)
It's been almost 5 months pp with baby number 1 and I STILL don't feel like having sex. We haven't once, a couple oral sessions for both of us. I had a natural, uncomplicated delivery with no tear. My husband and I are very much in love, great relationship but I just don't have the desire (or energy). I feel kind of bad for my husband but I asked him how he was feeling about it and he said he is happy to wait until I'm ready. Any other mommas out there wait a while, or maybe you didn't...what's your story?
This was posted anonymously to Mosaic Moms 2017 (Victoria, BC)
Okay I'm 3 months PP. My husband and I were having sex the other day and during an orgasm I felt a huge gush of liquid. I thought I was hemorrhaging! Lol. I made him stop! I was like what the hell just happened? I definitely didn't pee and there was no blood. We came to the conclusion that I must have squirted!? I have never had this happen and I know pregnancy and childbirth changes your body, but this was very confusing. Has this happened to anyone? I'm still kind of thrown over the whole thing, lol.
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Hey mamas, So I have a question regarding sex. So, abit of a TMI post. 🙊 Me and my partner have been together 2 1/2 years, and in those years there has only been a handle of times where I have been "on top" during intercourse. 😫 And after having babe we barely have sex, but within the past couple of weeks I can feel my sex drive coming back more, and last night I tried to go on top after not doing so for awhile, and I felt so awkward, like I didn't know what to do with my hips or legs... ugh! I felt uncomfortable being on top before we had babe but now I feel much more insecure about my body that it's just more uncomfortable now for me.. And he's mentioned a couple times that he would like me to "do the work", but I can't seem to get... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Today while I was at a dentist appointment in town, I left my husband with our two kids (7 months and 3 years old). Tonight he just told me that while I was gone, that he jerked it in the kitchen while the kids were in the living room (which apparently only took like 5 minutes🙄). Am I crazy for being super upset about this?? He seems to think I'm delusional.
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This was posted anonymously to Mommble Moms Saskatoon 2016 (Saskatoon, SK)
I've been rain checked on sex so many times it's starting to make me feel undesirable! I send sexy texts to get his attention and excite him for when he comes home but he doesn't even respond half the time! He told me we would get busy and then he didn't want to when time came. He claims to not watch porn or even masturbate often so I don't know if he is lying to me or he just doesn't want me. It hurts to be blown off so much after slaving to clean up after him and feed him and the kids.
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Lately I'm feeling a bit of a disconnect with my husband. We have a wonderful relationship, however since the birth of our baby sex has been a lot less. Now there are all the normal reason why, healing, newborn, not sleeping, breastfeeding, reduced sex drive etc. Now I feel like all of these are way less and I'm missing sex. Now both my husband and I have never pressured each other for sex. We have both been happy with the amount of sex we were having. Now it's significantly reduced and I'm missing the passion and deeper intimacy. I don't know what to do to help spark the flame. Hubby has never been into fancy bras/underwear (fine by me because it's expensive 😂) he's not super adventurous with positions. Lately when we do have sex w... Read More
This was posted anonymously to Mosaic Moms 2017 (Victoria, BC)
So I'm 32 weeks pregnant and I an wondering how often did you/do you and your So have sex entering the last week's of pregnancy? We have been pretty good, having sex every other day pretty much the whole pregnancy. But my huge body, sore back and hips is making it hard for me. I'm thinking every other day is too hard on me and my body.. How often are you having sex or how often did you once you got bigger? Also were your So supportive if that.... I get shamed a little and I hate it... It's not ok.
This was posted anonymously to Mighty Moms 2016 (Victoria, BC)
Has anyone lost their g-spot? I know it can't technically go away, but things are different postpartum. I feel like my front (?) vaginal wall is lower (internally if that makes sense?) I can't seem to find my spot, and hubby hasn't hit it either. It's as though my vaginal wall has blocked the spot or something. It doesn't seem "too soon" postpartum (9 months), but I'm still nursing so I know my hormones are not back to normal yet. Sex isn't bad, but I'm missing those insane orgasms! I even feel like my clit shrunk or something too. Is there anyone else out there that has experienced this or something similar?